ah boy and ah ger in love

Monday, July 18, 2005

For the past few days, I have been doing alot of thinking. Now I understand why unemployment creates depression. When minds are not working, they tend to be passively soaking up negative vibes and I'm only talking about my two days of medical leave.

I was thinking (negatively) alot during those days. But to be fair, it was a thought I had for a long time but it just blew out of proportion during my mindlessness state. It was a disaster!

My daughter did not enjoy the kind of patience I had from my husband. She is in her terrible twos now and is really a pain. Perhaps being a mother I'm able to show her the kind of tolerance and understanding she deserves as a toddler. It's not her fault. It's just a stage of development. However my husband will express negatively upon her actions and that hurts me all the time.

Once he commented that she is the worst behaved child he has ever known and I felt so unjustified for Joelle. She has her good days too! I'm taught to praise on good behaviour and not focus on the bad ones in my child development classes and I always try to do that despite her "irritate mummy" spree. She's just 22 months, I always remind myself. Why can't daddy do that too? I feel so sad... And the worst thing daddy ever said was that my daughter will be a failure because her mummy spoiled her. That was the last blow! I sat down and told him we need to rethink our relationship. I spent 10 months expecting this baby and another 6 months suffering from the pain of a C-section and breastfeeding challenges not to have anyone threaten her dignity and confidence. She is my pride and joy and will always be my success in life!

That comment almost drove us to the lawyers. We decided to do some marriage counselling or should I call it parenting counselling together. It's very much needed as I feel that daddy didn't get a good influencing role model from his daddy. Like father like son. I should have known better ... and earlier too. Plans are being made to arrange for counselling together. I'm looking at the group 'parenting for fathers' and hopefully they have some kind of program that could guide daddy into becoming a more appreciative father.

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angie and dave out @ 3:21 PM